Personality shaping by parents destructive to children

Not everyone is successful but all parents expect their children to be successful and in the process make grave mistakes in shaping up the personality of the child. More than often, parental psychology is driven by societal acceptance and they end up choosing options for their children which is extremely destructive for the child in the future.

The manner in which one set of parents bring up their children is guided by what society will think. Very few parents understand child psychology and manage to groom their children nicely. The majority of parents follow the patterns of society and drive their children to do something which definitely is not the child's aptitude. 

1. Child A is a brilliant student from childhood, gets higher education in the top engineering college or the topmost business school in the country, is placed abroad with a six-figure salary. However, in the process, he or she drifts away from the family fold. There is no place for emotions in their lives and that is the reason they become more and more successful in their overall lives. On the other hand, Child B is always compared with Child A, made to do all the same things that Child A did which are so disastrous.

As the saying goes, All fingers are not the same. Likewise, No child is similar to another. But the painful aspect is very few parents realize and accept this. Immaterial of whether the child has an inherent talent in something, he is invariably pushed into the stereotype path which was followed by many other children.

1. Some parents make the mistake of always pointing the negative aspects alone and creates a vision in the child's mind that they should not venture in that direction. Such children end up becoming a misfit in personal life, career, and all other areas of recognition. Those children become introverts as well and screw their happiness in the pursuit of the most suitable and comfortable lifestyle. 

2. Some parents make a major mistake of taking the decision in all spheres for their child. Such children grow up to be spineless, incapable, and incompetent in life. These children should never ever try to set their own families as that would be a disastrous outcome of their own failures. When this child grows up, he will realize that he has no real understanding of the world. Whatever he or she knows is only what is taught by parents. Such a child should either be a rebel and break away from the shackles of over-parenting or perish. 

Parents need to understand the innate talents of the child and support that talent so that the child grows up to be competitive, capable, and become achievers in their area of interest.

Nepotism/Favoritism in office- A detriment to success

There is a rampant stream of nepotism in most of the mediocre and small-sized business setups. This destroys many organizations in the long run. However, that is not a major concern. The major area of concern is that the deserving candidate is always sidelined and the so-called favorite is always kept on the helm of affairs. 

In an organization where a qualified professional is superseded by a less qualified person, there are so many issues. The major issues are:

1. There is always a lack of knowledge building and innovation in such organizations. There is no place for value addition or professionalism in such organizations.

2. The lower qualified personnel always enjoys the favoritism of the superiors due to their years of experience and their expertise is never judged or evaluated.

3. The highly qualified personnel invariably experiences a defeatist attitude and ends up questioning his or her own abilities.

4. In most organizations the highly qualified personnel is pushed to the extreme to behave like the lower qualified person and in the process destroys his or her focus, determination, skills, and knowledge.

5. Such organizations where Nepotism and Favoritism are rampant do not survive in the long run. Eventually, the organization dies a slow death.

One of the major reasons why most highly qualified professionals move out to foreign countries is that they want to be free from this world of Nepotism and/or favoritism. An engineering graduate from IIT or a PGDBM from IIM does not want to work in India due to the scarcity of recognition of skills, knowledge, and experience. 

It is highly imperative that there is a system in place in every organization wherein the rightfully deserving get their right place, position, and respect. Otherwise, it will always destroy the grey cells of all capable individuals and there will be only shitheads in the organization.